Just saying...

I was talking to a woman yesterday who also lost a child; she was upset because people beleive we should be "over" it. She also mentioned how some like to liken this to losing a pet! While grief, no matter what the loss is difficult, and yes, losing a pet is hard, losing someone you love is not something we simply get over. I have had a miscarriage, and for me, it was a blessing, but know that I already had seven children, and my marriage was horrific, so for me...It was not a grieving issue. I know many who have lost a baby, and for them, I am sorry for your loss. Most people want to get pregnant; I did not. But, I would never tell someone that their grief over the loss of a baby is in any way different than my loss of my grown child--I have memories, I can see his smile, hear his laughter, and remember his funny things that made me--well...laugh even though I wanted to beat him for them. Everyone grieves different, in their own way, and in their own time. During the holiday season, I wish to send out much love and heartfelt hugs out to those missing loved ones. It's a mournful time looking at the empty table, or just buying presents knowing someone is not there to share them with. My suggestion: Go out and shop for that loved one and then...donate it to a woman's shelter, or homeless shelter. If you shop with your loved one in mind, then the gift will have meaning--purpose. Take care of YOU! Hold your family and friends close and be grateful for the moments you shared with the ones you love.
Merry Christmas, or whatever holiday you beleive...just give the best gift you can..a warm smile, a gentle thoughtful wish, and life will be good.